Offering real choices throughout the day

 

Free Parent Guide · Communication & Requesting

A child who doesn’t talk yet can still choose. Choosing is one of the fastest invitations to communicate.

A 2-minute walkthrough with Sonali, Occupational Therapist.

Why this matters

When a child doesn’t speak yet, it’s easy to assume they can’t choose. They can — they just can’t tell you with words yet. Offer two things, and a point, a reach, or a look becomes their answer — the first version of a sentence.

Built into the day, choices give your child agency and a reason to communicate at the same time.

What to try tonight

1
Morning wardrobe. Hold up two shirts — “red or blue?” They reach for one; the reach is the answer. Whatever they pick, that’s what they wear, even if it doesn’t match. The choice has to be real.
2
Snack time. Two snacks, both fine, both visible at their eye-level — “banana or biscuit?” Wait five seconds. If nothing comes, move one a little closer; they almost always pick that one. Then they get it.
3
Play time. Offer two toys instead of tipping out the whole box — “car or blocks?” Play with the one they choose. Less mess, more focus, and they learn that choosing changes what happens next.
4
Two rules. Only offer choices you can live with; and once they choose, honour it — no swapping, no “are you sure?” A choice that gets overruled teaches that choosing is pointless.

Common mistakes to avoid

  • Offering a choice you can’t actually allow (then taking it back).
  • Overruling the choice the child made — it undoes the lesson.
  • Offering more than two options early on.
  • Treating a non-verbal choice (reach, look) as not counting.

When to seek more support

If your child shows no interest in selecting between options across different daily moments and several weeks, mention it to your paediatrician or a child development professional.

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Designed and reviewed by Sonali, Occupational Therapist, NeuroBuddy Clinical Advisory Panel.
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